LIFE IS A DREAM

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02-22-09

LIFE IS A DREAM

We live our lives looking for our dreams to come true, but what we are missing is that life is a dream. It began in utero, entered postpartum, puberty, adolescence, teen, adult, and then senior. Our life is the script that we write for ourselves. The play we are acting out everyday is the dream that we choose for our life. So life really is the “fake it til you make it,” mind set. What else is there? The poor me? My life sucks? I can’t help it? I tried but it didn’t work? What dream are you living, because you are living your dreams?

Hits you where it hurts doesn’t it? I was sitting at my computer this morning after a grueling few hours last night trying to put up a web page, (which, by the way is supposed to be very simple) but I ended in frustration, put it on hold and began fresh this morning. Well I still did not get it done. My friend James called and asked me if I got his email. I said “no, but what is it about?” he answered, “It will really help you out.” I asked, “help me out with what.” he replied, “with what you want to do.” Now I went to the website he showed me, and after spending the morning with the grueling….do this do that directions on how to build a web page, an auto responder, and an email list… this looked just like everything at that moment I hated. So I closed all of the windows on my desktop and sat with my head in my hands listening for the voice within.

Whenever I do that, my cat Pogo comes over to the table next to my computer desk and puts his paws on my shoulder. Some say he is responding to what he thinks is sadness but I always think he is looking for something, so I give him a treat and the nature of Pavlov’s Dog is now living before my very eyes in the shape of my cat. I “allowed” this behavior in him, and yet, even though there are times I am endeared by this gesture, most times I am sitting like that out of frustration and I snap at him. Funny thing about cats, they know everything, they have the best of everything because they demand it, and because it is a show of our love for them, we enable this behavior. Why don’t we think about our animals in the same way we do about our children. When our children develop bad behavior, we correct them to keep them safe. Whatever direction they are going in, we cannot control forever, eventually we have to let go of their behavior and let them live in whatever dream they are in, even when their dream to us, is a nightmare. But, it is our nightmare not theirs. Their dream is the reality they choose it to be, how they perceive it. We cannot perceive it, EVER, as they do. It is within.

When my father told me years ago that it was all in my head, (I heard it derogatorily) he was absolutely right…it is in my head, and in yours also. Our dreams, our reality, our life, is in our head and only we can control the outcome. No matter how much help and direction we are given by others, we must follow the dream in our head, because dreams do come true…when we make them. The next thing you hear from some people when they hear that is that you cannot reach your dreams without this action, or that action, and even that is true, but the action…is our dream…and the dream…is in our head. It is our own reality no matter what. NO MATTER WHAT! So I choose to do what the voice within tells me to do, to stay happy and balanced in my life, that is the dream I choose. What dream are you living? Does your life suck, are you in a state of poor me, are you living I can’t, I tried, I failed, because if you are just let this run through your head and see where it takes you…I am living my dream. If when you say that you are not happy, then change whatever you are doing and do what makes you happy. I know this is where everyone that is substance abusing, or being a martyr, or blaming others for the way they are living out their dream, says…”I can’t, I won’t, It’s not my fault,” and “you are nuts lady.” well, if I am nuts then I am loving every moment of it because this is my dream…the one I am living today and I am so grateful to be living this dream and planning my new dreams that nothing that comes my way is going to stop me from living it, unless it comes from within. UNLESS IT COMES FROM WITHIN, because “there is no new thing under the sun,” and “you are what you think about.” Be happy in your dream and your life will be happy.

My friend Dave Kenyon shares the most wonderful videos and this one seemed to hit home for me today, ENJOY:

How Do You Define FAITH?

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How do you define "FAITH?"

When I was young I believed that Faith was something you had or you were going to "hell in a hand basket" because not having "faith" meant you didn't believe in God, and God was vengeful and you would be punished. Sad right? Well, that was the way that my parents raised me, but I never got any happiness from believing that. So I raised my children differently. There was no abuse verbal or otherwise. I was always available to them and I gave them free reign at home to voice their feelings, whatever road that took us down. When my daughter was in her teens and I was in menopause she was in puberty, there was a battle a day in our home. But one thing I knew by then: God was not going to strike me dead if I did something wrong and I made sure that my children understood that.

But what are people defining FAITH as today? Well I'm asking? What do you consider FAITH?

I believe that FAITH is the one thing that changes our life, without it, you will always stay where you are. One must have FAITH that their life will get better everyday, even if you have a great life. So everyday I thank God (The Universe) everyday for the things I am grateful for, even a simple breath of air. Think about that. Where would we be without a single breath of air? Right...DEAD. So even though breathing is an involuntary bodily function, I am grateful to have it. If I did not continue to breath then my life would be o0ver and I would enter a dimension that I am not ready to go to. I like this one, this is the one that has my children in it, my goals, my desires, all the wishes that have not come true yet, and the most joyful parts of my life may still be ahead of me, so I am grateful to breath each and everyday every moment of the day.

There have been times in my life when I have lost FAITH. I lost faith because I was blaming others for the way my life was going and when I blame others I have no control over it, so it cannot change. The one thing we all know is that "You can change no one but YOURSELF" RIGHT? Yes! If you are still thinking that your relationship will improve if you can manage to change your partner, get over it, because you are wrong. If you are thinking you lost your jkob because the economy stinks, you are wrong so get over it, take responsibility for it and move on to get another one. If you are thinking that you will never be happy again, then you are right, because as long as you believe that you will never be happy gain, you won't be.

We are in control of our own reality and if you are still believing that is not true then test it. (I told this to my son) If you are worried everyday about everyone else around you and you never have time to do for yourself, who's fault is it? YOURS. Try to spend one day, just one, by thinking about no one else but yourself and the wonderful, happy, joyful things you want to have happen in your life, and see how you feel at the end of that day. And then the next day...go back to worrying about everyone else. Then on the third day compare the feelings, and be totally honest with yourself. Which day was more productive and which day were you the happiest, and which day were the people around you the happiest...RIGHT THE DAY YOU THOUGHT ABOUT YOUR OWN DREAMS AND DESIRES. Now which day is better for you and those around you? You decide and when you find that I am wrong, please come back and tell me that. Tell me that you are still miserable and unhappy and I am full of crap. I will look forward to that. Seriously, I will.