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"If You Don 't Like Your Outcomes, Change Your
Responses" Jack Canfield.
We have all (generally) used our past experiences as excuses for our lack of
success, but the simplest way to succeed is to change the response. Why make
excuses when you can make changes? Jack Canfield refers to
E + O =
R.
Event + Response = Outcome, in his book
"The Success Principles." Think about those that have
succeeded, and you will find that they all have one thing in common. They moved
forward despite all the obstacles that were put in front of them. I think that
pretty much everyone knows Oprah Winfrey's story of abuse in her childhood. She
didn't sit back and let that be an excuse to fail, she used it as a tool to
succeed.
It took me many, many years to realize that my parents were not responsible
for the life I have made for myself. I realized it when I had children of
my own. I saw my own experiences while raising my children and made sure that I
did not do the bad things that my parents subjected me to. That doesn't mean
that my children are all wonderfully successful, as a matter of fact they all
have issues because I carried past experiences with me for so long that they
were affected by it. They never had a realistic idea of what a good
relationship was because they weren't raised in one. Twice divorced, I raised
them predominately as a single parent, so there was no role model for them for
the perfect relationship. So they now have to learn how to have a good
relationship on their own. Am I beating myself up over that? No... because I
know that my parents did the best they could and so did I. I could not have
done things differently unless I came to this conclusion in my 20's and that
didn't happen.
This is true about all experiences in life. If we let our past determine who
we are or who we become, inevitably we will not be happy, unless we had one of
those lives where nothing terrible ever happened. I didn't have that life, I
had the one where bad things happened, and I thank God everyday for those
experiences because those became the teaching moments in my life. For every
obstacle I overcame, I became closer to the idea that the past does not define
me, I do, and I do it by the examples that I set for those around me now,
today.
What if there was only today? Would you take a chance and let go of all the
things that are making you unhappy? Would you dare to open your mind, not
knowing what would come out or what might go in. Most people find it hard to
open their mind...I leave mine open all the time, because at anytime the answer
to everything I ever wanted to know might come in. And so it has...I have
chosen to determine the outcome of my life based on the experiences of each day
and each day I do something that gets me closer to where I have always wanted
to be. Empower Network is my Saving Grace today
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If you can open your mind today check it out:
http://www.empowernetwork.com/almostasecret.php?id=AnnMarie
Have a Blessed Day
AnnMarie
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